Break the Anxious–Avoidant Cycle

…and finally feel secure in love.

Whether you’re the one shutting down and losing feelings, or the one loving someone who does,

Your patterns are not random. They’re nervous system strategies that can be rewired.

This is where we do that work. Together.

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Which of these feels more like you?

Choose which path reflects your current experience:

I’m the one who shuts down, withdraws or feels chronically ambivalent.

I lose feelings. I get overwhelmed by closeness. I keep people at arm’s length even when I want connection. I can’t tell if it’s “right”, and I’m scared of choosing wrong.

This is me

I’m the one who feels anxious, confused, or stuck loving someone avoidant.

I overthink everything. I feel unchosen, insecure, or unsure if they’ll ever meet me. I want clarity and emotional safety, but I keep ending up in this dynamic.

This is me

I’m heartbroken and trying to understand what happened or how to move forward.

I keep cycling questions and “what ifs.” I don’t know if I should reach out, stay hopeful, or close the chapter. I feel stuck between longing, regret, and confusion.

This is me

If you’re the one who shuts down or loses feelings…

You’re not broken.

You’re not incapable of love.

You’re not “too avoidant.”

You’re navigating a nervous system that:

shuts down when things feel too close
mistakes healthy intimacy for pressure
confuses calm for boredom
fears choosing wrong
tries to outrun vulnerability by seeking clarity
feels safer longing for someone out of reach
panics the moment you’re wanted consistently

This creates the exact cycle you hate:

You've tried forcing yourself to “just choose.”

You've tried analyzing it to death.

You've tried breaking up... reconnecting... distancing… trying again.

None of it solved the root.

Because the root is NEVER “the wrong partner.”

It’s your protective system.

And your protective system doesn’t need judgment, it needs rewiring.

In coaching, we focus on restoring what you’ve never been taught:

How to feel safe enough to choose, commit, and stay connected.

Relationship Ambivalence isn't Confusion

You're just caught between two fears:

Fear of losing the relationship

Fear of losing yourself

We’ll teach your body a new template for safety so connection no longer feels like a threat.

See How Coaching Helps You Break This Cycle

If you're the one who feels anxious, unchosen, or confused… nothing’s wrong with you.

You're not “too much.”

You're not dramatic.

You're not imagining the mixed signals...

they’re real.

But what's also real is this

Your nervous system is exhausted from:

decoding hot-and-cold behavior
holding the emotional labor
waiting for them to “be ready”
wondering if you should stay or leave
doubting your worth
shrinking yourself to keep connection
blaming yourself for their shutdowns
trying to fix a dynamic you didn’t create alone

And so you're caught in a vicious feedback loop.

You want one thing:

A relationship where you feel chosen, secure, and emotionally safe.

But you can’t access that when you’re stuck in:

overthinking
overgiving
overexplaining
waiting for crumbs of reassurance
losing yourself
chasing clarity
trying to “earn” consistency

You're not asking for too much...you’re asking for what secure people experience naturally.

In coaching, we help you rebuild the foundation you've never been taught:

How to feel secure in yourself, stop anxiously attaching to emotionally unavailable people, and choose relationships that feel mutual and safe.

Whether that's with your current partner, or through the clarity to walk away.

Working with me is great if you...

Just ended a relationship.

Struggling to let go of an ex and move forward

Looking to take your relationship deeper.

Ready to deepen your love and connection with your partner?

Don't trust yourself in matters of love

You want to feel confident in choosing a healthy relationship

You're aware & ready to change your patterns.

You want to let down the walls keeping love at a distance

Take The Next Step

I look forward to meeting you and helping you access the clarity, connection and care you deserve.

In this 1-on-1 session, we’ll take a deep dive into where you are in your relationship journey. Uncover what’s really holding you back from deeper connection. Explore your coaching goals—whether it’s letting go of an ex, overcoming avoidant tendencies, or learning to love with clarity and confidence. I want you to experience the work we can do together and help you take massive step toward the best relationship of your life.

Book Your Session

Join my exclusive 6 month private 1:1 coaching program for the self aware person who doesn't trust themselves to choose the right partner and always pushes love away. This program isn’t about quick fixes—it’s about finally addressing what’s holding you back so you can build the connection, intimacy, and peace you’ve been longing for. You'll redefine your relationship with yourself to creating lasting change in your relationships and life.

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